These were the verses that were on my mind today as just about everything I had planned went awry. I had so many things I told people I and my husband were going to do this weekend, and then today Scott told me that we weren’t going to be able to do everything like I had planned. Yes I was a bit disappointed, but I also realized that I had overplanned again. I keep thinking that I will get everything done, that I plan. I go about telling people the order I plan to have everything done in and then to find out there is a glitch in the plan. I guess I go on overload sometimes thinking I can make everything work out for everyone and make all the plans fit together so everyone can be happy, yet I miss something somewhere and Scott has to stop me and say “Whoa, wait a minute.”
This verse came to mind today because I thought I could get everything done that I told people we would do. And when Scott had to make a change in my plans, I thought, but I just told everyone… So I had to explain to all those I told, including our children why plans have changed. I’m glad that God understands my mind and has made it to where a wife can be submissive to her husband and yet not found guilty for the promises she made ignorant of the problems that might insue. I would not be a submissive wife, if I had to force my husband to help me keep all the things, I said we would do.
I kept one part of what I said I would do this week. Scott did not tell me I couldn’t so I was able to do that part. But the part that he voided, I was not able to keep. I would have sure bent over backwards trying but Scott told me that we couldn’t do things how I planned.
It is always interesting when I live out an example in the Bible. It makes it more clear to me, why God would say that the wife is not responsible for a vow that her husband voids.
Num 30:3-16
(3) If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth;
(4) And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand.
(5) But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her.
(6) And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul;
(7) And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.
(8) But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her.
(9) But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.
(10) And if she vowed in her husband’s house, or bound her soul by a bond with an oath;
(11) And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her, and disallowed her not: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.
(12) But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard them; then whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand: her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her.
(13) Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void.
(14) But if her husband altogether hold his peace at her from day to day; then he establisheth all her vows, or all her bonds, which are upon her: he confirmeth them, because he held his peace at her in the day that he heard them.
(15) But if he shall any ways make them void after that he hath heard them; then he shall bear her iniquity.
(16) These are the statutes, which the LORD commanded Moses, between a man and his wife, between the father and his daughter, being yet in her youth in her father’s house.
Thats very mysterious Stac
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