Five Minute Friday: Fight

I have a lot going on this month. Did I mention that I joined a 31 day challenge to write 500 words everyday? And today it was suggested that those of us doing the challenge try writing freestyle. That is no editing or correcting. I thought of how I used to do Five Minute Friday just for fun and decided I would go to Lisa Jo Baker’s site and give her Five Minute Friday a try. Since it is Friday and all.

The rules to Five Minute Friday is no over thinking and no editing. Today’s word is “Fight”.


Jonathan, Hannah, and Elijah dressed in their Christian Armor during our Vacation Bible School in 2013.

Set the timer and GO!

Fight. When you can think of anything else to do.

Fight. When the battle seems too hard.

Fight When you know you need to work on a task.

Fight. When you can’t see the end.

Fight. When you know you are right.

Fight. When you want to be heard.

Fight. When you can’t see the end.

Fight. When you can’t think of anything else to write about. Fight. This isn’t working for me.


What am I doing. I feel like I’m wasting time trying to think of something to say about Fight. Hmmm…

So I’m aimlessly typing to see how many words I can type in 5 minutes. I don’t think I’m doing to well.


I need to just forget Five Minute Friday and just write something that I was thinking about today. Like Childhood memories. That would be interesting.


I can’t think of anything fight related right now. I reckon I might could think of something if I really tried but we are suppose to be writing this without over thinking it or editing it. So I may not post this anyway..


I will not fight the words that are coming out of my finger tips right now. I will not fight the urge to just type aimlessly and I only have 47 seconds to go. I will fight and move on for all of the 29 seconds remaining.

I will never give up. I will not surrender. I will fight writers block. I will win! And…


Yep, that was all I had. I tried it again and it only got worse. So I am giving you my first unedited complete with typos post. It’s better than nothing, right? However after I wrote this post I decided to go ahead and write on that childhood memory. I will share that story later after I have a chance to actually edit it. Today’s post was just a freebie. I thought I would lighten things up a bit and do something fun.

If you would like to read other Five Minute Friday posts you can check them out here.

Thanks for following my blog. What would you like to see from my blog in 2014? I will be writing 500 words everyday. Some of them will be blog posts and some will be towards books.

For a little added fun, (I like to have fun.) is there something you would like me to write about? Tell me any subject you would like to see and I will do my best to write something for you. It may be serious or as silly as this Five Minute Friday. Go ahead leave a comment and give me a try. 

I’m just a little excited about this little experiment. 🙂 Happy New Year! 

~~ Anastacia ~~

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My Birthday, Christmas, and a Happy New Year!

I had to sing the title as I typed it. Well, at least that last part.

2013 was a wonderful year. I met and exceeded many of my goals. I wrote a book, attended a writer’s conference and ended the year with a clean kitchen.

Those who were following me at the beginning of last year might remember my word for 2013 was “determined”. I was determined all the way to the end to finish the year out strong.

Here are a few blog posts of note in 2013:

Why I Started the New Year with 1000 Kicks (We’re doing this again this year.)

Conquering the Chore Monster

How to Baby Proof a Kitchen in 8 “Easy” Steps I need to do another post like this with Elisabeth as a toddler. We have not put a baby gate up at all to our kitchen this year.

Finding Beauty in Imperfections

These are just a few to show what we have been up to during the year.

I also wrote a book “Don’t Quit: Build a Legacy of Commitment” which you can download for free here. You can also read the blog posts I wrote to go along with my book. I plan to finish the 31 Day Building Commitment series and write a more in depth book from that theme.

December was a very busy month. Our children were sick the week before Christmas. I caught it the day before my birthday. 


Birthday Presents from My Husband and Kids

I shared this on Facebook about my Birthday.

“Thank you, everyone, for the Birthday greetings! I had a wonderful day. 

My younger children gave me one roller blade and a floaty.  Now I can skate on one foot in a swimming pool without drowning.

My oldest son gave me a beautiful necklace. And my husband took me out for dinner and bought me a Keurig.

When we came home we had birthday cake made by my kids, ice cream, and coffee made in my new Keurig.

I couldn’t have asked for a better day! — feeling loved with Scott Maness

I had quite a few comments asking, “What’s up with the one roller blade and the floaty?”

I promised to write a post about that and then immediately the busy-ness of the season set in and I never stopped to post the rest of the month. So I will now give you that explanation. 

My children have sweet, caring hearts even if at times they are a bit misguided in their efforts. They believe that a Birthday is not complete without a gift being given some time during the day.

My younger children felt bad that I didn’t already have a gift so they ran to their rooms and grabbed probably the first two things they found on their floors as a present to me. It just so happened that those two gifts were a roller blade and a deflated floaty which they wrapped in a baby blanket. 

They brought it to me and when I opened it I smiled and with all the excitement only a mother can give for such a gift, I exclaimed, “Wow! Now I can skate on one foot in a swimming pool and not drown!” I gave them all hugs and thanked them for the gift. 

My 15 year old son later in the day gave me a necklace he had bought a month earlier. I was very impressed by his having thought to get me a gift that far in advance. It was very sweet and a sign of his growing up. 

My husband took me out to eat and we shopped for Christmas presents and bought a Keurig for my birthday. I have only been drinking coffee off and on for about a year and a half now. Two years ago I would have never dreamed I would want a Coffee Maker for my birthday. It’s amazing how much we grow and change in just a few years.

We spent Christmas with my family and enjoyed seeing my sister and her family as well.

Did you have a good 2013? Are you as excited as I am about the things to come in 2014? What type of posts do you like to see on my blog? Is there anything you would like to see more of? Feel free to share your thoughts with me in the comments or if you follow my blog by email just hit reply if you would like to talk with me privately. 

It took me long enough to get this post written. I have quite a few goals for this year. My word for the year is “organize” and I’ll be sharing more about that soon. I will also tell you about the goals I have for this year. I’m looking forward to a lot of great things to come. 

Have a very blessed and productive New Year!!!

~~ Anastacia ~~


Charity in a Loaf of Bread and a Pair of Socks

It has been a little while since my last post here. My children are sick and I’ve been working over time to get them well before Christmas. Overtime being in the hours I would normally sleep.


Our children posed with one of the 3 Wise Men who made a special appearance at a local church for their annual Christmas Under the Stars walk through Bethlehem.

I do have a special story that I shared as a guest post on Joan Hall‘s blog entitled “Charity in a Loaf of Bread and a Pair of Socks“. It is a story about a Christmas day several years ago where my family chose to do something for others before opening any presents ourselves.

You can read all about it here.

Tomorrow is my birthday and right now all I want is everyone to be well. If you would please pray for us. I will try to get another post out over the weekend and will update everyone on how we are doing. In the mean time enjoy my Christmas Story.


Alone in the Crowd

This time of year many people are excitedly running around decorating and planning activities and parties. Their time is spent looking at lists and deciding what to get for that cousin or this aunt. Sometimes it is very easy to overlook those who are lonely. In fact we may not even realize, they are alone in the crowd.

Ah. Did I just describe you? Are you that lonely person hiding in the crowd. Sure there are a lot of people all around. Your family. Your friends. I know. I’ve been there.

Maybe you feel like you simply don’t fit in. You try to go to that party or you go to that family gathering. Then again maybe this year you are considering not going at all. Would anyone even notice that you are missing this year?

You go on your computer and take a look at your email. No one wrote you a personal note just to say, “Hi! I’ve been thinking about you.” It used to be special to receive a note in the mail. Now it would even be special to receive a friendly message in your inbox.

Then you go to your favorite social media site. Is it Facebook, Twitter, or Google+? You sit at your computer or stare at your phone and watch the endless line of chit chat taking place. Everyone is buzzing around with holiday cheer.

Look at that family picture. Oh look, they saw Santa. Christmas parade? That is a lot of food!

Everyone has something going on. You may wonder, “would anyone notice if my internet went down and I couldn’t post for a month or even a year? Would they notice if all I said was ‘Merry Christmas’. What if they don’t see those two little words among all the pictures?”

And then you found this post speaking just to you. Do you know you are special?

You. Are. Special.

Perhaps no one realizes you are lonely. Have you been hiding your loneliness behind that smile? Wipe your tears now. I have good news for you.

You are not alone.

Let me share a story with you. Many many many years ago there was a man named Elijah. He was sent to deliver a message to a king. The king and queen didn’t like the message and sent an army to kill the messenger.

Elijah hid in a cave and became very depressed. He was all alone. No one was left. All of the people he knew had turned from God. And the people he tried to share God’s message with want to kill him.

Then God told Elijah to stand on the top of a mountain.

First there was a strong wind. God wasn’t in the strong wind.

Then there was an earthquake. He wasn’t in the earthquake.

Then there was a fire. He wasn’t in the fire.

Then suddenly God appeared… in a still small voice.

You read that right…  a. still. small. voice.

God didn’t make a loud announcement and point Elijah out to the 7,000 people that were still following Him. He simply, quietly spoke to Elijah.

God may not be revealing Himself boldly or loudly right now. Perhaps He wants you to stop and listen carefully to His still small voice calling out to you.

“You’re not alone.”

“You are special.”

He knows how many hairs there are on your head.

He knows everything about you. Even those feelings you hide deep down inside, He knows. He really cares about you!

God is calling out to you. All He asks is for you to stop and listen.

He will never leave you nor forsake you. That is real commitment.

Are you listening to His still small voice speaking to you? Do you know someone that needs to hear this message? Are there others in your life that are lonely just like you? 

They may be too busy hiding in the crowd to hear God gently beckoning.

Perhaps you can be the messenger that delivers God’s message of love in a still small voice to them.

stillsmallvoice This is Day 26 of 31 Days Building Commitment based on my free book “Don’t Quit“.

If you know someone that is lonely and needs this message, feel free to share this post with them. If you have shown God’s love to someone or had His love shown to you please share in the comments. I would love to hear about it.

~~ Anastacia ~~


Never Alone: Facing Life Without Your Partner

Many things in life are unpredictable. Sometimes things happen beyond our control. We may not want to think about them happening. We hope and pray that it never happens to us. However there comes a time when we must face this question. Either before it occurs or after when we are shocked by the reality of it.

We do not live forever here on this earth, nor can we predict who will go first or when.


I have known many who have lost their lifelong partner. I have friends younger and older who have faced this difficult situation. Each one grieves in different ways.

Our mortality is a hard subject to discuss. However it is important.

What would I do if something were to happen to my husband? Where would I go? How would I support my family? What would my husband do if I were the one to go first? My heart aches to even consider those possibilities.

A friend of mine who lives in Sweden, Lotta Wanner, wrote a very thought provoking post called “Not Enough Time“. In it she shares a couple of incidents that made her realize how short life is. She also talks about ways to prepare for our families ahead of time if something should happen to us.

If we were to have something happen to us what would we want our family to know? I wrote about this last June in my blog post “If I Only Had One Day Left“. In that post I talk about what I would do if I had only one day left to live. In that one day I would write everything I would want my children and their future generations to know.

Maybe this post will be the jumping off point to help you and your spouse discuss what you will do if something were to happen to either of you.

Some questions you might consider discussing are:

  • How will you support the family?
  • Where will you live?
  • What decisions would be hard to make while mourning?
  • Do you both know where important documents are kept?
  • What about passwords to personal accounts like email and such?

Those are just a few questions you might consider.

Don’t get me wrong it is very good to plan for a long and healthy life. It is also good to prepare for your future and what you want to accomplish in your later years. Dream big dreams of happily-ever-after together.

God doesn’t want us to worry about losing the ones we love. If you think about it having this discussion and preparing beforehand actually frees us to not have to worry about it anymore. When those important matters are taken care of we are free to live and dream of a long and healthy future together without fear of what may come.

The day may come that you face life without your spouse. Whether you are prepared or not it will still be hard. Or perhaps you are already facing that moment.

Here are some words of comfort I want to give you today.

“Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope.
For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.
According to the Lord’s word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep.
For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first.
After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever.
Therefore encourage one another with these words.”

– 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 NIV

This is hope. Knowing that even though the loss hurts right now, a day will come when we will see our beloved ones again. Oh what a glorious day that will be!

Will you be having this discussion with your spouse? Are you prepared? Please share with us in the comments

This is Day 25 of 31 Days Building Commitment. This series is following my book Don’t Quit: Build a Legacy of Commitment which you can download for free here

My next post will be for the lonely. Thanks for following!

~~ Anastacia ~~


What is Tribe Writers?


Some of you may have noticed the changes that have taken place in my writing over this past year.

In July of 2006 I started a little blog called “Thoughts from Stacie”. I wrote sporadic posts about things going on around our home. You can see how I left it at I had changed the name from “Thoughts from Stacie” to “Rock Solid Family”. I probably should take it back to looking like it was when I started but how I left it shows the transition.

I also wrote a few pamphlets, gospel tracts, and bulletins for our church.

I really wanted to make a difference with my writing.

I took a Children’s Writing course but I wound up dropping out. Discouraged after a few years at my slow progress, I was stuck and unable to see past where I was at.

Then in October of 2012 that all changed for me. I joined Tribe Writers.

Let’s take a look back over how far I have come.

This year I stopped waiting to be a writer and started calling myself one. I made myself business cards for my first writing conference.

I have found my writing purpose to help encourage and strengthen families.

I have written a book Don’t Quit: Build a Legacy of Commitment. You can download it for free here.

I am in the process of writing an expanded edition of my little book. I also have several Children’s book written that I want to get into print in the near future.

I will be launching an exclusive newsletter on January 1, 2014. I will share a once a month anecdote of what is happening behind the scenes at Rock Solid Family. I want to keep my blog pertinent to my passion but still have a place to share what we’ve been up to with my serious followers.

Thanks to the boost I got from Tribe Writers, I am now daring to dream bigger dreams.

So… Why am I telling you all this?
I feel you have a message to share too.

Do you desire to find your audience and spread your message to your Tribe? Then Tribe Writers is the place for you!

Click on the picture below or on any of the Tribe Writers links to find out more.

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*All of the Tribe Writers links are affiliate links. Which means I get a commission if you join through one of my links. The money I earn will go into producing more books and resources for you.

I would highly recommend Tribe Writers even if I didn’t get any commission. That’s just an added perk for Tribe Writers’ alumni. 🙂

Come join the community and see what Tribe Writers can do for you.


How to Be Happy Every Day (Book Review)

Have you ever felt sad or depressed? Is your cup half empty most of the time?

Well it’s time to fill that cup up!


Bryan Hutchinson of has written a book that will help you do just that. Fill your cup up with happiness.

In his book, Bryan shares from his own experience how he came out of the mire of depression.

Happy Every Day – Simple Effective Ways to Better Days is a powerful book that is easy to read. In it Bryan gives simple, practical tips to live a happier life.

“Happiness is about perspective. It’s not just a feeling.” ~ Bryan Hutchinson

He talks about how to create happiness through helping other people and encouraging your children to live happier lives. Those are just two of the many examples and steps he gives to encourage us on our road to happier days.

This book is for anyone that finds themselves depressed or sad about different situations they may face in life. Happy Every Day doesn’t put you down for having those feelings.

Instead it cheers you up and helps you to realize that you are an amazing person and knowing that should make you happy every day.

Reward yourself for choosing happiness. Grab a journal and this book and start living a happier richer life everyday.

Have you read Bryan’s Book “Happy Every Day” yet? If you have tell us about it in the comments. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Better yet go ahead and write your own review. Bryan is hosting several contests over at his blog “Happy Every Day” Book Launch Drawings and Contests where you can Win Kindles and Gift Cards!  Let me know if you write a book description and I’ll be sure to read yours too.

For those who haven’t read his book, don’t miss out. You can get it on Amazon today by clicking here or on the picture below.


Happy Every Day – Simple Effective Ways to Better Days

*None of the links in this post are affiliate. Even though I was offered a free copy of Happy Every Day for my honest review, I went ahead and purchased my copy. The price is very affordable and I want you to know that I wouldn’t suggest you buy something I wouldn’t buy myself. 


Jonathan’s 6th Birthday

We called Jonathan to our room the day before his birthday. 

“What kind of cake do you want for your birthday?” Daddy asked.

“A German Chocolate Cake with a pickle on top!” Jonathan replied without hesitation. 

“A pickle?” I had to ask. “Do you want a real pickle on top or a picture of a pickle?”

“A picture of a pickle.” Then he thought a little bit about it. “You know instead of a German Chocolate Cake, I want a Russian cake with an alligator and a number 6 candle on top.”


Jonathan with his 6th Birthday Cake.

We have a tradition with our children that they get to pick their birthday cake. With six kids, I try to reserve big parties for highlight years. This way I don’t have to figure out whose turn it is to get a party. Besides we have our own portable party with 6 kids.

“I don’t know how to make a Russian cake. Would it be okay if Daddy just wrote ‘Happy Birthday’ in Russian on the top?” 

“Yes. That would be fine.” He said very matter of factly.

“What kind of toys would you like?” Daddy then asked.

“Well.” Jonathan replied, “You see… It wouldn’t be a surprise if I told you what kind of presents I want. And well, it wouldn’t be any fun without a surprise. So that’s why I can’t tell you because it wouldn’t be a surprise!”

So Scott and I set out to surprise our Jonathan.

This is the perfect example of his big 6 year old personality. He has a lot of energy and is a very affectionate young man that loves wrestling and hugs.

siblings He was born the biggest of my babies at 11 lbs. 4 oz. That is why I call him my Little Giant. He can be rough and tough at times. We can picture him being a security guard. He also has a super big heart that might surprise you what he understands and feels. That is my Little Giant. chewtoy

Isn’t it amazing how different every child can be? Do you ever stop and appreciate the uniqueness of each of your children? Go ahead and brag about your kids in the comments. Any comments directed toward Jonathan I will read to him. 🙂 

Even though I am not including this in my 31 Day Building Commitment series, I still feel it goes along with commitment. We need to take the time to recognize each family member’s uniqueness. 

This week is interesting as we only have the younger 3 children for a few days. That is why I took so long to get this written. Whenever the older siblings are gone the younger ones have troubles figuring out how to entertain themselves which leaves me with a small window of time to write. I will be continuing to blog but it may be a touch sporadic this week. I’m sure I’ll have interesting things to share. 

Thanks for following!

~~ Anastacia ~~



Dear Children: A Letter from a Mom

I am writing this letter to my children. Perhaps your children might benefit too.


Dear Children,

As your parents, we want you to know that we really do understand.
Your father and I have been in your shoes before. We grew up in different homes and under different circumstances. Those differences in our raising helps us to better know what challenges you face today and in the future.

God expects you to honor and obey us even though we are not perfect. Learn from our mistakes. Be respectful even when… especially when you disagree with us.

Not all children have godly parents. They need good examples to watch how a family should be. You may one day be a mentor that a child will look up to. Set a good example of love and respect. You never know who is watching your life and wanting to be like you.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”

– Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV

The Bible says to honor your parents. Give us the respect God intended you to give.

Listen to the wisdom from our years of experience. Listen as we share what God has given us to share.

Be obedient children. If you obey, life will go much better for you. You will be learning from us and will not have to make the same mistakes we have made.

You will one day soon be embarking on your own life and adventures. Soon it will be up to you to make your own decisions. You will not be able to blame your father and I for what choices you will make. It will ultimately be up to you what you do with the rest of your life.

It is hard on us as parents to see you feel bad. When you realize you are weak in an area, we have trouble pointing out what you need to work on. We want you to know right now, we love you and only want you to be the best you can be. You should strive for your highest potential.

It is okay to feel bad about the things you do wrong. We don’t always have to feel good about ourselves. We need to feel guilty at times. How else will we know we need help if we never allow ourselves to feel how terrible our mistakes are?

God can give us the ultimate help and greatest relief from our pain. If we never feel bad, we will never strive to be better. We all need to do better.

This does not mean to drag yourself in the dirt and be depressed. No. I’m saying to realize your weaknesses. Make the necessary improvements. If you do, you will be a stronger and wiser person.

There is a place for humility. It is very easy to be proud of ourselves and of our accomplishments. It is a difficult thing to remain humble. People appreciate a humble spirit.

Be willing to put others before yourself. Be slow to brag on your own accomplishments. Be quick to praise other’s accomplishments. That is what it means to be humble. It is okay to realize you are doing well. No matter how old you are I will always love you to call me to tell me everything that you have done. I am and always will be proud of you.

Treat people the way you would want to be treated, even if they do not treat you the same way in return.

God knows your heart. Pray to him. Tell Him your regrets and fears. He is always there to listen and help.

Always remember that God loves you. He will always be there for you even if your father and I can’t. God is always ready and waiting for you to call on Him. Just as I say that I’m just a phone call away. God is even closer. He is just a prayer away. You don’t have to get your phone out and dial a number for Him. All you have to do is speak and He is right there with you to listen and help.

I have so much more to teach you. I’m very thankful that God gave you to me. I am very proud of you. I love you!



If you could write a letter to your children or grandchildren what would you write? If you have a blog consider writing a letter to your own children. If you do please share the link with us in the comments. I would love to read what you have to say.

This is Day 24 of 31 Days Building Commitment. Only 7 days to go in this series. If you want to see a basic outline of where this series is going check out my book “Don’t Quit: Build a Legacy of Commitment“.

Tomorrow I will take a break to tell about our Jonathan’s Birthday.  Breaks like that won’t count in the series they will simply be added bonuses sprinkled in. 🙂

Thanks for following!

~~ Anastacia ~~


Raising Children In a Messed Up World

As parents, there are a lot of things we may worry about concerning our children. They are a gift from God. They are a precious treasure that God has entrusted into our care.


A typical school day at our home. Our children working on their lessons.

“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.”

– Psalms 127:3-5 KJV

We love them, invest our time in them, teach them…

They start growing up and we begin to look around. We start looking at the world from a parent’s eyes. Who will our children marry one day? What kind of homes are our children’s future spouses growing up in right now?

It’s hard to think that my future daughter-in-laws and sons-in-laws are alive right now and I won’t know anything about them for quite a few more years.

Oh… but those years are passing quickly!

I cannot know what my children will face in their future but I can prepare them now as they start to step out into this world of brokenness.

These are the things my husband and I will teach our children now, while we wait.

  1. How to find the answers in the Bible to the different situations they may face.
  2. How to resist temptations that will be thrown at them.
  3. How to pick the right person to marry.
  4. How to be committed to their spouse no matter the storms that may come.
  5. How to set a good example for their families.
  6. How to teach their children.
  7. How to say they are sorry when they make mistakes even to someone younger than themselves.
  8. How to treat someone that thinks differently from them.
  9. How to speak words of praise for other people’s strengths.
  10. How to gently encourage someone to grow through their weakness.

My children have all different personalities. I have the quiet ones and the talkative ones. Some of my children are full of energy and extroverted while others are silent and introverted. I teach them how to get along with one another despite their obvious differences.

One day they will most likely marry someone much different from themselves. Their spouse will most likely have a different background. They will face their own challenges. I cannot predict what those challenges will be because they will be starting their own families.

It is our job as their parents to prepare them in the best way possible. I am praying for my future children-in-laws that God protects them through whatever situation and temptation they may face.

I also pray that God gives me and my husband the wisdom to teach our children these things. It may seem like a terrible thing to bring children up in a cruel world. Then again this world be even worse if God’s children didn’t raise up more jewels to bring beauty in this world of pain and suffering.

Your children are gifts from God for you to love and cherish. Teach them right.

Many times children will marry someone just like their mother or father. Are you modeling the kind of marriage you want your children to have? Do you treat your spouse with the kind of mutual respect you want for their marriages?

What are some lessons you want to teach your children before they grow up? Please tell us about them in the comments.

This is Day 23 of 31 Days Building Commitment. Only 8 more days to go. In my next post I will be addressing children and what they need to do.

This series is based upon my book “Don’t Quit: Build a Legacy of Commitment” which you can download for free here.