In my last post I talked about Not Why but How I Love My Husband. There were lessons there that could apply either direction. My husband follows that same pattern in showing his love for me.
Today I want to go deeper into how a husband should love his wife. Did you know that the Bible actually addresses husbands directly on this one? Yes. There is specific direction in the Bible for husbands to love their wives.
It is easy to be infatuated with someone when you first meet. However infatuation fades with time.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” (Ephesians 5:25-33 KJV)
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.
A husband that loves his wife should be willing to give his life for hers. Just like a parent that loves their child would rush into ongoing traffic risking their own lives to save the life of their child. A good husband will protect his wife. Just like Jesus loved us so much He willingly died to pay our debt.
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Jesus Christ takes care of His church in order to present it to Himself.
A husband needs to be the spiritual leader in his home. A husband that sets out to raise his family to follow God can look back over his life and present his family before God.
I picture that day as I stand beside my husband in Heaven and we look over all of our children that were also taught to follow God. I imagine my husband saying, “Lord this is the great work you blessed me with. Here is my family. I present them to you.’
I know God would say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant!”
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Alright, guys, here is a verse that shows it’s okay to be selfish. Yep, the more you love your wife the more you love yourself.
It does not mean to love your wife for selfish reasons. It means that if you love your wife the way you should love her, then she will be a blessing to you and will help you. In essence the better you treat her the better life will be for yourself.
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
What do you do when you are hungry? You eat.
When you feel dirty? You bathe.
That is cherishing your body.
How do you cherish your wife?
Hold her when she is crying. Feed her when she is hungry. Do what you can to provide what she needs physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
We are a part of God’s body. Each member of his body has a purpose. The eyes see. The ears hear. The hands pick things up. They may be individual parts but every part is one with the body. They all work together.
God made husbands and wives to have different abilities and to work together as a team.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Once you are married you no longer live with your parents. You are now on the same team as your wife. Together you honor your parents but do not side with them against your wife.
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
It is amazing and hard to understand the similarities between a husband’s relationship to his wife and Jesus’ relationship with His church.
This is how a man loves his wife just like he loves himself. A love that will do what is best for her.
That does not mean to be like a parent making your kid eat her vegetables. But do what is best for her as a partner. Encourage her. Be her biggest fan!
and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Wives, don’t undermine your husband’s efforts. If you see he is trying to show you love, accept it and encourage him as he steps up to being the real man and husband God would have him to be for you.
He needs your encouragement not criticism.
Don’t criticize. Encourage.
Husband’s do you love your wife like this? Wives do you let your husband love you this way? Go ahead and tell me about it here.
If you don’t have this kind of relationship there is no better time to get started than right now.
Get your marriage back how God would have it be. You’ll be so glad you did.
Right here my husband and I were going to have our first podcast for you but… Podcasts are a lot harder to pull off than we thought! So… after a million takes (slight exaggeration) we decided I should go ahead and post this and we’ll keep trying. One day we’ll stop trying so hard and probably have a perfect podcast. 🙂
So instead I want to share this blog post I recently found over at Time Warp Wife. Check out When You Love Your Wife You Love Yourself for another point of view.
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